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  • Since the act of hearing in itself does not involve doing a מעשה, one is פטור from an איסור דאורייתא of שמיעת לשה"ר due to a היתר of הנאה הבאה לאדם בע"כ.  Two conditions necessary are (a) they didn't join the conversation to hear LH (b) למעשה is not deriving pleasure from the LH he's hearing. (see BMC14).  Thus, the איסור דאורייתא דשמיעת לשה"ר is only if the person was לילך לשמוע. 
  • Further, the person must not facilitate or encourage the סיפור לשה"ר, (to avoid the איסור דרבנן of מסייע לידי עבירה) and thus must remain stone-faced without any expression of agreeance (this also avoid the איסור דאורייתא (??) of חניפה) - it's preferable to look disturbed by it. 
  • Nonetheless, there is a מצוה דרבנן to do something to prevent hearing it (e.g. leaving, or plugging your ears).   It's not clear whether embarrassment would פטור one from this מצוה. 
  • In addition, there is the מצוה דאורייתא of תוכחה and איסור דאורייתא of קבלת לשה"ר that remain in force and are not subject to these פטורים.  
  • Can you go out for lunch to lure a potential business client if you have have valid reason to assume that he'll speaks LH during the meal?
  • Can you attend a social gathering, where LH is often spoken, solely to enjoy the food?
  • Can you speak about מילי דעלמא with someone that you know is not careful to refrain from speaking LH?
    Is this any different from eating at someone's house who you know is not careful in the laws of kashrus?
  • Is the CC giving an actual heiter to stay (w/stated conditions) or just informing those that will violate the דרבנן on how they can at least avoid an איסור דאורייתא (damage control)
  • Is the מצוה דרבנן an obligation (that you must do) or an opportunity (you can choose to do for a mitzvah)? 
  • The CC adds the restriction (if you know that they normally speak LH e.g. בעלי לשה"ר) however the Gemara is discussing a case where the person was walking to the איסור?  Ran seems to be discussing intention (incidental) not whether there is a מעשה See RNK
  • How do we know that the היתר of הנאה הבאה לאדם בע"כ doesn't also permit the מצוה דרבנן?
  • In the CC"s ספק in BMC11 - Why is the Mishnah Eduyos 5:6-7 used as the reason to say that doing the מצוה outweighs any embarrassment suffered) when the Gemara (Berachos 19b) itself which gives the heiter of כבוד הבריות seems to explicitly consider this very point? 
  • Essay 1
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  • Kesubos 5a - the general מצוה דרבנן to put your fingers in your ears to avoid hearing anything improper.
  • Shabbos 56a (BMC9)
  • Berachos 19b re: היתר משום כבוד הבריות vs. Mishnah Eduyos 5:6-7 מוטב ... שוטה - (BMC11)
  • re: היתר of הנאה הבאה לאדם בעל כרחו (BMC14):
  • Gemara: Pesachim 25b, the first part of the sugya starting with איתמר re: the parameters of the היתר.  The rest of the Gemara deals with proofs and the CC uses that to prove that כל איסורי שבתורה are included in the היתר.
  • Rishonim: See פירש"י (there) re: definition of אינו מכוין, and תוס' re: פסיק רישא and definition of "אינו יכול".  Also see: פי' הר"ן re: the person's intention that led him to get "stuck" in the situation of איסור. 
  • רמ"א in SA YD 142:15 re: Proof that this היתר applies to all איסורים שבתורה and would also שמיעה, etc. (i.e. not limited to smelling ריח of עבודה זרה):
  • Machlokes ש"ך and חכמת אדם re: whether the היתר only applies if the person is also covering is ears.  Also see Berachos 53a and חידושי הרמב"ן on Avodah Zarah 13a
  • Apparent contradition to this היתר from Bava Basra 57b re: one who walks on a street where women are if there is no דרכא אחריתי
  • RY ST213 and ST216 re: מסייע לידי עבירה and חניפה (BMC15)
  • אגרות משה OC3:36 re: היתר for ובו תדבק if there is a צורך גדול.  Also צ"ב what does he mean that it's not an איסור ממש.  
  • עשין ו re: ובו תדבק
  • עשין ה re: מצות תוכחה
  • לאוין ט"ז re: חניפה
  • Detail of the various חיובים that need to be addressed (PRESS F5 to Refresh and Format the map)
  • הנאה הבאה לאדם בעל כרחו - (as per ר"ן): Engaging in a permitted activity, which as a by product will leave the person "stuck" in a situation of איסור.
  • שיטת הרא"ש בענין פסיק רישא דלא ניחא ליה
  • שיטת המהרש"א המובא במשנה ברורה דאפי' קרוב לפסיק רישא אוסר
  • מחלוקת ש"ך וחכמת אדם
  • היתר משום כבוד הבריות - applies to דרבנן's
  • מצות עשה דובא תדבק
Topic - If one is stuck amongst a group of people that begin speaking LH
Concerns מדאורייתא:
(a) Obligation to rebuke - as long as it will be of any help. (see BMC9 re: cases where rebuke won't hurt or help)
(b) איסור קבלת לשה"ר - there is no היתר for this.
(c) איסור חניפה- being expressionless without any sign of agreeance will avoid this.  It's preferable to look disgusted.  See לאוין טז.
(d) איסור שמיעת לשה"ר - there is a general היתר where the איסור is happening בעל כרחו that would apply to this as long as it's לא ניחא ליה and he didn't intentionally put himself in that situation in order to hear LH.  The CC holds that פסיק רישא is only an issue if the person did a מעשה and thus not applicable here.
(e) ובו תדבק - Obligated to socialize with those whose actions we should learn from.
(f) - לפני עור
Concerns מדרבן:
(a) איסור to be מסייע the speaker in doing an עבירה - avoid via being expressionless
(b) מצוה to do something to prevent hearing anything improper - fulfill via leaving or covering/plugging ears. The CC addresses (BMC11) whether the embarrassment (כבוד הבריות) for sticking one's fingers in their ears would exempt him from this מצוה דרבנן.  May 5, 2026
(ה) ועתה נחזור לעניננו הנ"ל דמה שכתבנו בסעיף ב' דאפילו שמיעת לשון הרע הוא איסור תורה היינו לילך ולשמוע, אבל אם ישב בחבורת אנשים שנתקבצו (ח) לענין מה והתחילו לדבר דברים אסורים והוא משער (ט) שדברי תוכחתו לא יועילו להם מאומה תלוי בזה (י) אם אפשר לו לילך ממסיבתם או להניח אצבעו באזניו מצוה רבה הוא עושה בזה כמו שאמרו חז"ל בכתובות (דף ה') אבל אם אי אפשר לו להשמט ממסיבתם ומשער בעצמו שעצה זו דהנחת אצבעו באזניו גם כן קשה לו מאוד (יא) מפני שילעגו עליו ובודאי לא יעשה עצה זו, על כל פנים יראה אז לזרז את עצמו ולהעמיד על נפשו בעת צרה כזו וללחום מלחמת ה' עם יצרו כדי (יב) שלא יכשל על כל פנים באיסור דאורייתא של שמיעת וקבלת לשון הרע. ולזה צריך ג' פרטים שיזהר בהן מאד וינצל על ידי זה על כל פנים מהאיסור תורה שיש בהעון הנ"ל.
א) יחליט בנפשו בהסכם גמור (יג) שלא להאמין להדברי גנות שמספרין על חבריהם.
ב) (יד) לא יהיה ניחא ליה בשמיעת סיפוריהם האסורים האלה.
ג) (טו) גם יעמיד על עצמו שלא להראות לפני המספרין שום תנועה שיראה ממנה שהוא מסכים לדבריהם אך ישב כאבן דומם. ואם יוכל להראות לפניהם פנים נזעמים שיבינו ממנו שהוא אינו מסכים לדבריהם ההבלים בודאי הוא טוב יותר.
re: לילך ולשמוע - i.e. went to the conversation with the intent to hear LH.
Q - However, לכאורה that would have been written as "איסור תורה היינו לילך לשמוע".  Whereas לילך ולשמוע (with the וא"ו separating it into 2 components - the listening and the going) implies that it's not אסור מן התורה unless the person did a מעשה הליכה before listening).  However, that's not true, as even if someone was sitting and didn't actively join a conversation but rather another came to him and began speaking LH - it would still be an איסור שמיעה if the person enjoys hearing the LH.  As the CC explains, the היתר of הנאה הבאה לאדם בע"כ wouldn't apply in such a case.  לכאורה, we're forced to say that the CC means as he states in BMC14 that "לא בא לכאן בהחבורה בשביל השמיעה רק לענין אחר". May 5, 2026
re: איסור תורה היינו לילך ולשמוע - i.e. the איסור תורה is only if the listener has intent to hear the LH.  לענ"ד here the word ("היינו") is meant to introduce a qualification of the איסור and not a definition (explaining what the essence of what LH is) nor even one of the גדרים of specific to LH.  As the CC explains in BMC14, there is a general היתר (i.e. not specific or intrinsic to LH) which is applicable to "כל איסורין שבתורה" called "הנאה הבאה לאדם בעל כרחו".   What "איסור תורה היינו לילך ולשמוע" means is that the איסור תורה דשמיעת לשה"ר is subject to the היתר of "בעל כרחו" if the listener wasn't לילך לשמוע - i.e. didn't go (to join the conversation) for the purpose of hearing LH.  Without this, there isn't the requisite intention necessary to be liable for any איסור שבתורה .  (See here whether that requires that the person was unaware/caught by surprise by the LH or even if he was aware but the איסור was incidental to his purpose for going.)
However, this is not to say that שיטת רבנו is that intent is NOT intrinsic to the definition of שמעית לשה"ר - only that he's not referencing that here.  We find that the CC splits סיפור לשה"ר it into 2 categories - one based on the potential impact of what was said and the other based on the speaker's intent.   Either one is enough to make it אסור משום לשה"ר.  The mere possibility of "damage" suffices to prohibit the סיפור as LH regardless of the speaker's intention (e.g. יהודה בן גרים).  However, that is only one type of LH.  The "חלק החמור" of LH is the speaker's choice (i.e. intent) "להרשיע את חביריו".  Thus, סיפור לשה"ר does depend on the speaker's intent (where there is no damage).  LH4_1_1 explains how this can result in a heiter to speak גנות ממש even w/o תועלת.  You'll see there how the 2 parts are satisfied - (1) there is no possible embarrassment (actual "damage") that can result in the end and (2) no intention from the onset to embarrass.
Thus, if the CC views שמיעה/קבלה as a mirror image of the איסור of סיפור לשה"ר (despite being learned from a different passuk) - intention should effect the איסור קבלה in the same way.  In LH6_1, רבינו seems to explain the reason for the איסור קבלה is "כי עי"ז יבוזה בעינינו מי שנאמר עליו" (i.e. due to the damage caused).  לכאורה, the חלק החמור would also apply (presumably) for the שמיעה - merely for the intention of wanting to hear something that he views as גנות.  However, in our case, that intention doesn't exist - as the CC explains.  Nonetheless, even w/o the intention to hear LH, לכאורה is the damage aspect of LH also exists in the שמיעה itself.  Recall, re: the סיפור that merely creating the possibility of harm is enough to make it LH.  So too, re: שמיעה, once he hears it, it "instantly" creates the possibility that it may result in him believing it and lowering his esteem of the נידון ("damage') and is LH - regardless of intent.  Thus, it wouldn't seem likely that איסור תורה היינו לילך ולשמוע means to say that the עצם איסור שמיעה requires intent.  Rather, the היתר is due to the requisite intent component of איסורים in general. (i.e. the היתר דהנאה הבאה לאדם בע"כ).
This may also explain רבינו's seemingly peculiar stress on immediacy (BMC13) and the apparent prequisite condition (condtion no. 1) listed in the מקור החיים to have complete conviction to not believe what you'll hear.
In addition, to the aforementioned איסור שמיעה for merely creating the possibility of harm, it would seem the opposite should also be true לקולא.  The same היתר that the CC discusses in LH4_1_1 should apply to permit the שמיעה.  Namely, if the person doesn't have intention to hear LH (לשם גנות) and (e.g. based on his view of the topic being discussed and opinion of the נידון) knows for certain that hearing it won't lower his esteem of the נידון (thus no damage).  This is only regarding LH, other איסורים such as לפני עור and חניפה, etc may still apply.
אי"ה we'll discuss how this applies to the case where someone is listening to another speak LH which is purely damage (e.g. is revealing the נידון's trade secret which will result in financial harm) without any דברי גנות. 
Main Takeaways
(1) The CC is not trying to say here that the איסור שמיעה per se depends on intention.  Rather any איסור in the Torah requires a certain intent.
(2) Nontheless, the CC is מחדש that the איסור שמיעה parallels איסור סיפור and thus itself includes one category which does depend on intention.  The 2 types of LH (middah and damage) apply to both שמיעה/קבלה and סיפר.  The middah LH is based on intention and damage LH is for creating the possibility of harm or diminishing how one views the נידון - regardless of intent.
(3) The CC illustrates how intention (even if not לתועלת) can result in a היתר re: סיפור לשה"ר.  It would seem the same applies to the איסור שמיעה וקבלה.  Conversely, one needs להחליט בנפשו בהסכם גמור that what he is about to hear won't possibly result in damage/diminishment of his opinion. May 5, 2026
re: והתחילו - Q - Does "began" mean that they already said LH (and it's clear that it's just the beginning of more LH to come) OR does "began" mean that the tone of the conversation changed in a way to indicate that it is likely leading to LH?  May 5, 2026
re: שלא יכשל על כל פנים באיסור דאורייתא - Here (and in multiple other places) the CC implies that that there is no actual היתר to stay, only a way to "at least" minimize the extent of the עבירה being done if he stays to only דרבן.  However, see the comment in BMC11 for possible alternative approaches. May 5, 2026
re: עצה זו - Q - Is this an עצה? a חיוב? or מצוה רבה? i.e. a Suggestion, an obligation or an opportunity to fulfill a מצוה if he can?  See BMC10 where the CC contrasts the "עצה" of plugged ones ears with their fingers vs. the "חיובא" to leave.
A - ???? May 5, 2026
re: מצוה רבה הוא עושה - I think רבנו means this as an obligation/חיוב. May 5, 2026
re: יחליט ... בהסכם גמור - This implies that in order to be permitted (מדאורייתא) to stay there is a prerequisite to be מחליט with complete resolve to not believe the LH (about to be said).
Q - If the concern is איסור קבלה, why isn't it sufficient to simply not believe (מקבל) the LH?  Further, why must this החלטה also be with a "הסכם גמור" (complete conviction)?  If there is no היתר for the איסור קבלה, why not simply state that the condition is שלא להאמין?  Why is this condition setup differently than the other 2 which simply state what you can't do (שלא ניחא ליה, שלא להראות שום תנועה הנארה כהסכמה). Further, when the CC wants to add חיזוק (as he did earlier in this סעיף) he instructs לזרז and/or להעמיד על עצמו.  I don't recall this request/requirement for absolute conviction elsewhere in the ספר.
Q - Why isn't this stated as a requirement in the other cases in which it's permitted to hear LH.  For example, in LH6_4 re: the מצוה to hear דברי גנות על חבירו (in order to protect oneself or others), the CC merely stipulates "יזהר בנפשו מאד שלא יאמין".  Similarly, in LH6_2, the CC merely stipulates "אבל לקבל דהיינו להחליט הדבר בלבו שהוא אמת אסור בכל גווני".
Q - Why should the שומע even make such a conviction - perhaps the LH will have דברים הניכרים ממש which would permit him to believe it (עיי"ש)?
A - In LH6_1, רבינו seems to give a reason for the איסור קבלת לשה"ר as "כי עי"ז יבוזה בעינינו מי שנאמר עליו" - through believing the LH one is lowering their opinion of the נידון (=reputational damage).  As discussed, there are 2 types of LH.  One which prohibits saying anything which may possibly cause harm (e.g. physical, financial, emotional, embarrassment, reputational, etc.).  This type of LH doesn't depend on what the speaker's intention was.    In this regard, the מספר and מקבל are effectively doing the same thing - causing harm to the נידון - one by speaking the דברי גנות that has the potential to cause the harm, the other by believing it (and thus causing the harm).  The איסור סיפור is even for saying something which merely has the potential to harm.  לכאורה, the same would apply to the מקבל.  Perhaps, that is how the CC views איסור שמיעת לשה"ר.  Hearing the דברי גנות, creates the possibility of harm (he may believe it and יבוזה בעיניו מי שנאמר עליו).  Perhaps, this סברא was a motivation for the CC to מחדש that there is an איסור שמיעת לשה"ר דאורייתא despite (to his admission) no mention of it in חז"ל, and כמעט none of the ראשונים holding it to be any more than an איסור דרבנן.  Why would the מספר be prohibited from even creating the potential for this harm, and the שומע not subject to the same גדר?  They're both creating the potential for harm.
Thus, even in our case, where the שומע doesn't want to hear the LH, nonetheless, if he stays he is immediately creating the possibility of believing LH (and harm).  Perhaps, for this reason the CC requires that if the person is to stay and hear the LH he must resolve with absolute conviction ("בהסכם גמור") that he will not believe it.  This is to remove the possibility for harm.  This would be similar to what the CC permits in LH4_1_1 via telling a חכם צנוע thus removing the possibility for harm עי"ש. 
Based on this, this 1st condition is not only requiring that one not believe the LH (איסור קבלה), but also must remove any possibility of it happening (the איסור שמיעה).  Further, perhaps the איסור שמיעה is not a גזירה דאורייתא, in the same way that the Torah prohibiting even speaking something that has the mere potential for harm is לכאורה not a גזירה דאורייתא but rather a part of the definition of LH.  Words that can harm are בעצם LH, and not simply because it can lead to harm.  See here for a possible סברא for this.  
Main Takeaways:
(1) It seems that the CC understands איסור שמיעה similar to איסור סיפור - can't create the possibility of harm (even reputational harm).
(2) As such, this is not mere דברי חיזוק, but rather a requirement that one must have complete conviction that he won't believe what he's about to hear.  If not his hearing creates the possibility of harm (איסור שמיעה דאורייתא)
(3) It would seem that if he knows the topic he's about to hear, and that it certainly won't change his esteem of the נידון then לכאורה that should also suffice. May 5, 2026
re: שלא יכשל ... באיסור דאורייתא של שמיעת וקבלת לשה"ר - i.e. these 3 requirements are the lines between the דאורייתא and דרבנן's are.  The first requirement - to not believe it - addresses/avoids the issur of קבלת לשה"ר דאורייתא; the 3rd requirement - to note make any indication that you agree - addresses/avoids the איסור of סיפור לשה"ר (as communicated that you agree with the LH that was said, is a form of communicating LH - as he stated elsewhere??).
Q- However, what does the 2nd requirement address?
A- Perhaps it addresses the "LH_Middos" aspect of LH (see LH3_6.  If so, it would mean that he holds that it applies to not only speaking LH (for enjoyment) but even to listening to LH for enjoyment. May 5, 2026
re: והוא משער שדברי תוכחתו לא יועילו - This might not be a condition re: LH.  It may seem due to this being mentioned after the LH condition of that this is an additional condition and that if he doesn't rebuke (when it would be of help) he violates the איסור שמיעת לשה"ר מדאורייתא.
Q - However, that's hard to explain.  בשלמא re: סיפור לשה"ר לתועלת rebuke is one of the peratim or else it's full LH as in that case the person is publicly embarrassing the נידון (and the RambaM seems to learn this as a prequiste for embarrassing לשם תוכחה that the CC applies to LH לתועלת).  However, re: שמיעת לשה"ר there isn't public embarrassment (he isn't necessarily even believing the info himself).
Q - Further, this case is meant to be the complement of what he started with that the איסור שמיעת לשה"ר is only where the person is intending (i.e. לילך ולשמוע) to hear LH.  This would seem to be a matter of his intention.  What if he is simply מתעצל regarding rebuke?  How would rebuke relate to whether or not he intends and is trying to hear LH?
A - I don't think that he means it as part of the complement of Case 1 (i.e. re: intention to hear the LH).  Rather I think that perhaps another option (in addition to avoiding the LH) which also fulfills a מצוה is to stay (and even hear the LH) in order to rebuke.  Perhaps the CC simply avoided that case by excluding it from Case 2 entirely (though could have listed it as another sub case with a mitzvah possibility).  May 5, 2026
BMC8 - The CC defines which type of conversation/gathering is not a candidate for the leniency discussed in this סעיף - one where the pretense of the gathering is for לצנות or LH.  It is also prohibited to attend even a non-LH meal before this - if it will leave him unable to leave before the LH starts.  May 5, 2026
BMC9 - re: תוכחה.  What if it won't hurt or help? May 5, 2026
BMC10 - Halachic difference between leaving vs. sticking ones fingers in their ears.
Q Not clear to me May 5, 2026
BMC11 - What is stated in the מקור החיים is not a פטור באמת.  Not sure whether כבוד הבריות would permit. May 5, 2026
BMC12 - The מצוה of ויתד is only a דרבנן (as per LH6_2_2) May 5, 2026
BMC13 - May 5, 2026
BMC14 - Source of היתר on the דאורייתא is הנאה הבאה לאדם בע"כ (from Pesachim 25b).  Addresses (a) פסיק רישא; (b) שיטה of חכמת אדם who would only permit if the ears are also plugged up (c) apparent סתירת הגמרא w/Bava Basra 57b re: inadvertent הסתכלות בנשים May 5, 2026
BMC15 - Required to not show agreeance due to איסור (דרבנן) דמסייע and איסור דאורייתא of חניפה May 5, 2026